Money, a love story

 

The financial consciousness I have now, and the life I’m enjoying as a result, feels amazing. I want this feeling for everyone on the planet. Having gone through my own financial bumps gives me not only the credibility, but also the empathy and perspective to hopefully help thousands of others move through their own versions of money madness with grace and ease.

It turns out that my money story is, in fact, a love story on many levels: it’s the story of my love affair with money, the story of an evolution in my loving relationship with my mother, the story of falling in love with my beloved, and the story of helping others create their own money love story.

Money, a love story is a straight and gentle book about money, very different from all other books on personal finance. Even if it contains exercises and practical advice, the author’s aim is not that of giving us spells to become rich, but present us with “the recipe of recipes”: how to create a healthy and positive relationship with money and abundance, breaking free from all the limiting beliefs that we were taught when we were children, and that make us feel guilty, dirty, dishonest and so on.
In a society almost celebrating poverty and frugality, and that often associates wealth with dishonesty and immorality, wishing for abundance and a gratifying life make us feel wrong and corrupted.
Money, a love story wants to overturn this paradigm and show us that, taking care f ourselves and creating abundance in our life not only is good for us but for other people too, because we can help them better. In fact, how can we fill another person’s glass with ours, if this is empty? How can we help others to live a fulfilling and satisfying life if we live a life of deprivation and scarcity?
Money is worthless in itself and we want it just because it can help us getting what we really want (safety, peace of mind, power, acceptance, etc.).
One of the main teachings of the book is that – if we want to change our life – we must begin working on the inside and not on the outside (like trying to change situations or ignoring and cursing our weaknesses and difficulties), because it’s what we have inside that determines our behavior and the consequences in our daily life.
The inside creates the outside, not the opposite.
Other relevant points brought up by the author are: learning to receive (we often can’t even accept a compliment without feeling uneasy about it), and valuing ourselves, because not doing so stops the flow of abundance and make us unhappy.
The book is especially dedicated to women, who for centuries have been considered (and they believed the same too) unable to handle money like men. Kate Northrup, sharing her experience and that of people she met, helps us identifying our beliefs, emotional connections, and behavior towards money, transforming them and healing ourselves.